Mommy Meet-Up Chicago

Being a mother is the best gift in the world. Sometimes mothers (especially my single moms) get so wrapped up in taking care of others, we forget to take care of ourselves. Well, I want to take a stand! How would you moms feel about having a monthly meet-up to just socialize? The children can come and meet new friends and best of all you get to socialize with other mothers.

Please take the survey below and let me know your thoughts. Comments are welcomed!

Am I Wise?

Product Description 

"Start down the "magical" road to "sweet" surprises! This adorable version of the classic CANDYLAND game features the colored cards and fun illustrations that kids love, with different "destinations" like Cupcake Commons and the chunky Chocolate Mountains. Choose your cards, move your pawn and let your imagination soar as you make your way to the castle to win!

It is funny to me how many people live their lives just as the product description of this game. They have no plan, no direction, and no stability. Every step in their life is a surprise. Simple tasks like paying bills is a shell shocker each month because before they get paid they've already spent the paycheck on trivial things, not giving much thought to how the rent/ mortgage will be paid or even how they will eat next week.

Each job is a different destination because they are still "finding themselves".

Then these toxic people enter your life and your the pawn. They move you along and let their "imagination soar" as you stupidly follow. What the hell? So goes my theory, ya'll know I have a theory for everything. Well, here you go: if you don't have the common sense to turn around and run when someone is leading you in a dark forest with no flashlight, map, or destination, then you need to walk smack dead into a tree. I'm just saying.

I am proud of the decisions I have made in my life to this point. I have learned some hard lessons, cried some very wet tears, let go of some things I once held too tightly, found new friends, loved deeply and hurt even deeper. At this point in my life I know what I like, what I want, and what I can't tolerate. If only I'd known these things in my twenties, trust me I hit a tree ONCE, and it knocked me right on my "bottom part". (smiles)

It's funny how when you are a teenager you think you know everything, in your twenties you've figured out the world, and when you hit thirty you realize you didn't know anything and now your proceed with caution. With the experiences both good and bad, this decade of my life is different. I see things for what they are and not for the way they should be.

So I ask myself, am I wise?

Hell no, but I bet I now  know better NOT to walk in the dark, plus the wisdom is getting there. Can you say the same or are you stuck in "Candy-land" trying to figure out the next best move to make? Or are you walking blinding into a tree?

Candy-land is the easiest childhood game to play and if you are over thirty and you keep get sent back to start, then it is time to grow the hell up!

I Can't Sing A Note: But I've Been Singing My Heart Out

“Woman I beg your forgiveness

And I'll do whatever it takes

And may the Lord be my witness

Honey I never meant to treat you this way

Sugar your heart has been broken

But I could still see true love shine in your eyes

When every word has been spoken

Woman I'll love you for the rest of my life” -

By Kem - Universal Motown Records (2010) 

I absolutely love this song. I think I listen to it about 20 times a day. It is clearly an “I messed up, take me back” song. But the last few times I heard it, I listened to it from a different perspective. I started singing the song to myself. I mean looking in the mirror singing out loud with all my heart singing. Suddenly the words meant so much more. I started feeling like I was singing the “I messed up, give me another chance” directly to me.

Okay, you are probably thinking what is this girl talking about?? The song just got me to thinking about how bad a person feels when they are in a painful relationship with someone and all the emotional hurt they go through. Well I have been down that dark road and when I stepped back I just look and say, “it wasn’t worth it”. I must have been foolish to ever treat myself so wrong. Loving someone that doesn’t love back, giving your all and then your left feeling empty. You temporarily lose yourself. Well no more, it’s time for me. So I just sing to myself: “I’ll never hurt you again Girl I, I know you deserve a better man, Girl IIIIIIIIIII, I was a fool to ever let you down”

Oh a serious note, you really do let yourself down when you don’t allow happiness to outweigh the rough times. Though there is pain and heartache, I am still a believer in true love. One day I will have stars in my eyes again. So again, I’ll never allow myself to hurt like that again.

I know, this is a weird way to listen to a song, but the words carry a strong meaning to me and I interpret things differently. Most people would envision a man singing it to a woman, but trying singing it to YOU and hear the meaning behind the words. We can hurt ourselves more than any individual and just like we forgive others, we also must forgive ourselves. I hope you can find a different meaning in the songs you love. God knows I can't sing, but I've been singing my heart out. What can I say, it makes me happy!

Blogish

OMG,...I have been so stressed. I can not even explain it, I was starting to feel like a two headed monster.  I have committed to way too many things and unfortunately some of those things have to go.

It's On

Today was yet another busy and tiring day. Despite the fact that I literally want to pass out from exhaustion, I got so many MANDATORY things done today. I am a procrastinator when it comes to doing certain things. I hate grocery shopping, I hate laundry, and oh yeah, I hate doctors offices. Hence, the reason I had to knock all these to-do items off my list today. Life would be so simple if I did things as they came, instead of letting it all become urgent at once. Anyway, no one is perfect and at least I know my imperfections. That doesn't excuse the fact that they exist, but I am working on it.

Well, I did it. I revamped the fridge in preparation for my work week. Eating healthy is not difficult for me. It is just when I go back to bad habits, I don't know where to start in order to get back on track. Well I started at the start. My problem isn't indulging in goodies, it is picking processed foods for quick eats. We all know processed foods are filled with sodium. preservatives, sugars, dyes, and a lot of non-nutritional things to extend the shelf life. Well since that is my downfall, I stopped it dead in its tracks and loaded up on the good stuff. Take a look below:

I am giving it my all, because I have no other option. Leave me some encouraging tips. Now, it's on!

An Achy Breaky Week

This has been a tough week. I am exhausted beyond belief. Rising at 5:15 each morning has been no joke. I have managed to workout every day this week, which is great. I've also decided to switch up my diet a bit. I am still in the process of adjusting it to my liking, but tomorrow's agenda includes a trip to the outdoor farmer's market.  Having fresh fruit and vegetables on hand for snacking will curve my attempts to snack late at night. I am looking to lose X pounds by Halloween. It is not a lot, but it is just enough for me. I love my curves. I would like to lose 2.5-3 pounds a week. I think that is a reasonable amount of weight to lose per week.

Each night my bedtime has gotten earlier and earlier.  My body is an "achy breaky reck". I literally hurt on every inch of my body. The muscle stiffness is no joke. For anyone that suffers from muscles stiffness, tightness, fatigue, spasticity, and/ or muscle spasms can feel my pain and frustration. I think getting back to a healthier lifestyle will make for less aches. At least that is what I am hoping.

"Food For Thought"- I Can't believe its September

I am the way I am because I've been there before. Experience has thought me that if it smells like crap, it is crap. Something that stinks can't possibly be sweet. Do you know that or do you keep letting people feed you BS and tell you it's chocolate?